Another point of view...

Just to voice another opinion.

I am nonetheless having a good relationship. Having to say that, I hope readers realize there is more than one writer in this blog. For those of you, who didn’t please read the following lines... for those who did, please proceed to next paragraph.
YOU DOINK PEOPLE! How you think you could get so many articles in a day? You think we don't have to WORK huh! (Hiiiiiaaaa beesh... poing! That would be the sound of your backside landing on floor. Not bad huh... my invisible kick... Remember that!)

Ahem.... where was I? Oh ya... Good in the sense, during school days, I do not pay much attention on guys, they just don't impress me much. (You got to understand, having a father who was a math teacher in your class... what do you expect?). With all those point make clear, I do behave like perfect student. All the girls consider me "non-threatening". (Believe it or not, most of them behaving like princess dowager having to fight for king's attention!).
Because of my status, some do confine in me, the war's detail. When you think politicking in office is bad... you should go to "ALL GIRL SCHOOL".

Then came college days....
It was one of the scariest experiences for me yet it is so refreshing. First time away from family and living outside on your own with monthly expenses you don't have to work for. (I can see all of you smiling from ear to ear... those good old days... Aaahhh...) For me, it was the beginning of "involvement"... no more "non-threatening" status. (Father wasn't around :-P )
The fights if there were any, were almost non-invisible. Girls were more civilized during college day. I don't know...maybe it got to do with age or probably they had too much fighting in secondary school, they rested during college? Beats me! I just have no clue.

One thing lead to another... *blink* I am in a relationship. I have my one and only man and I feel so blessed indeed. Why? Probably I heard so many "cold and heartless story" on relationship that I am just so glad I don't have those experience.

But not having those experiences also mean don’t have those sweet memories. I have a few friends who suggested I try more than once. The reason: How do you know this is the right one? Just like food, you won't know what food you like until you taste it and slowly it will go into your like or dislike list. Come to think about it, it does make sense. How do I know indeed?
That will always remain a question...

I ask myself if that is an important question? Then I decided it is not... why? Because like food, it is to fill you up so that you will not be hungry. Does my one and only relationship make me not hungry for other... YES. Next, I already have my like and dislike list. Indeed tasting more will give me more choices but end of the day both of these lists will only get longer and longer. So? What if I can't find such food to fulfill these two lists? The longer it get, more impossible it becomes... then what do I do? Compromise?

By now all of you must be thinking... wow, it is great to have only one relationship. You couldn't have been so wrong...

1. Everyone agrees experience create awareness. You experience this, you will be more aware on the outcome. Having to deal only a relationship, you couldn't tell anything at all. Information comes from friends, you can only guess.

2. Without awareness, there is no appreciation. I do take things for granted. Why? Because I always think that it should be this way. You know being girls you get so much that is your privileged.

3. Not loving enough. How to be loving when you never break your heart before? To know the hurt will only educate you that love...doesn't come easy.

4. I... take a different view on friends. Friends for me are those who is helpful, fun and enjoyable company. I didn't have the ability to empathy much, but I do try... from all my guessing. You must agree I have great friends... why? Because they never once ask me to shut up when I don't know what I am talking about. ;-)

5. You have heard over and over again the saying "the higher you go, the harder you fall". Having one time bull eye on relationship does create pressure. Some of your friends... (Not mine ok... mine are angels to me :-D ), may look at you with envy. Once you fail, they will have a bashing field day. Even you know the relationship will fail, you will compromise it too much just because you have an "image" to maintain. *sounds weird right?...*

I have a couple of friends having the problem above. With my ignorant mind, I think the choice is only divorce but to them, it is a risk of being humiliated. They go on, disillusion themselves that is life and you just have to take all that in.

So you see whether it is a one-time bull eyes or multiple searching task, it makes no different. Everyone have his or her own set of problem. There is no way to say which one is better than the other... just count your blessing and hope you make as right decision as you can.

Hey to think about it, if both of us writers have the same set of experience then we will just be repeating ourselves... that will be so boring right :-P

Thank God for variety :-D