With tearful eyes a recently broken hearted friend asked me today "Aren't you lonely without a boyfriend?" Honestly speaking, I replied "No more as lonely as you were when you were with your ex". Why did I reply that? Because hers was a loveless partnership for months before the breakup. Having a boyfriend to her was like having no boyfriend because they led separate lives and barely spoke 10 sentences to each other in one month!
But anyway, of course I am lonely. It's definitely different having someone guaranteed to accompany you shopping or for dinner or to catch the latest movies. Heck, when I initially broke off with my ex, I was so lonely I almost went berserk trying to find things to keep myself busy. However, there is still hope. Get this tip firsthand from the expert - you'll get used to it *wink* It's an adventure of sorts too. Somehow lonely people get to discover other lonely people, and voila, you get a whole new bunch of friends.
Which brings me to an observation I made. Couples tend to hang on to a relationship no matter how boring, how empty it has gotten simply because they are afraid of being lonely once again. And I think that is sad. I'm not mocking these couples because I've been through it myself and know the fearfulness involved. But if you never throw away something old and useless, you can never discover something new and much more exciting. Right or not? Sure I might get lonely, and sure I fear living the rest of my life alone without a lifetime companion, but would you rather settle for someone than risk being lonely? Should we settle for someone simply because that person could provide you companionship? Why not a pet then?!? Pets will definitely give u less headaches and heartbreaks :p
Jokes aside, loneliness is really in the head. If you think you are lonely, then you will feel lonely. But if you seize the moment, then you can change that loneliness into fulfilling moments. Maybe God put those empty moments into your life to allow you to concentrate on other equally important things in your life. Maybe it's breathing space for you to take a step back and evaluate your own needs. I know of friends who "lose" themselves in a relationship, and it takes a breakup to allow them the chance to see the identity that they have lost. Or maybe you just needed the rest. Personally, my loneliness has taught me about self resilience and self sufficiency. It made me realized the goodness that I have thrown away in the past and going forward this would be beneficial to ensure I am more appreciative of the people that are to come into my life. And if God's will is for me to be alone, then Thy will be done. The more you fight it, the more you will drown, riiiiiigghhhhttt?? :)
Finally thank you MC for your entertaining news today. FYI, MC called me so very excitedly to tell me he saw my ex holding the hands of another woman. Now, that would not have been the most happening news to me, BUT MC did comment I was 100 times better looking! yahoo!! Yipee!! OK OK, I exaggerated. He said only 10 times :-p AND YES, I know love is not about looks, and he probably dumped me coz he couldn't stand my damn demanding and hard headed personality, BUT I'm still smiling ears to ears. It's good to be a bitch for once :DTo my ex, I wish you all happiness...really...sincerely from the very bottom of my heart. Without you, I would not have gone through the learning period of loneliness, and evolved a fitter and bitchier version. Arigato gozaimasu!!!
And to the rest, Happy Deepavali and Hari Raya and especially a great happy holidays to all Malaysians. I'm finally off to Bangkok!!! After 4 months of waiting, it's finally happening! Who says a single girl gotta be lonely *wink*
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