What Is Love?

Let's talk about love today :)
Someone just told me he's getting married, and after he gets married, he does not want to talk to me anymore. I find that rather funny, because then does it means he sees me as a temptation, or a distraction. And if so, what is the point of his marriage?

Anyway, what exactly is love? Many times the words 'I love u' has been said to me, but so far I never felt that love lasting. So does that mean 'love' is only a temporary feeling? Ask anyone what is love, and you get a variety of ideas. Some say love happens when you can't get a person out of your head ie. that person is in ur mind the minute you wake up, and is the last person u think about as u drop to sleep. Others say love is true when you trust the other person with your life, and when you too are willing to sacrifice your life for the person you love. Or is love the feeling one has when you get weird funny happy feeling inside ur tummy when you meet someone? What about the fact that you feel like kissing someone or making love to someone - is that considered love too?

How do we differentiate love from lust, love from crush, and love from infatuation? The world has gotten so complicated that sometimes you can't even tell if your own family loves you, what more a total stranger? I used to think that if I love someone, I would think about him all the time, I would wanna see him all the time, I would not be able to lay my hands off that person. But that's not really true right? I too have told many guys I loved them, but do I really love them? Can't be right if I can live without them now. Heck, sometimes I don't even think about them anymore *ooppppsss*

So what is love lah?!! A book I read said that if you love someone then you must be willing to serve him. What does this mean? Well basically it means you must be willing to sacrifice your own happiness and comfort, willing to accept and forgive the person's wrongdoings and bad points, willing to stand by the person's through thick and thin, willing to die for him. And despite all those willingless, you are not to demand ANYTHING. If he/she becomes shitty to you, then you need to bow down and accept it, be patient and believe that he/she will change because of your great love. I think I would call that real extreme love. If that is love, then what is torture?!!

Ah, maybe that's why I've never been successful in love. Coz I demand too much. I expect to be the one to be served..haha. Well, I'm changing ok...God has not finished His work in me. I would like to have a love like that of my parents. After 20 over years of marriage, I would still want to look into the eyes of my man and see his love shinning through. I would like him to see me smile and tell me I am his sweetest angel on earth. Despite our white hair or baldness, we would still be holding hands when we go out together, and we would have no qualms about hugging and kissing each other in public. And most of all, I would love to be able to lie with him in bed and feel nothing but total happiness and security. And of course hope that I would die before he does!

Which reminds me, colleague of mine was talking about a man who visited his wife's gravestone everyday without fail to be with her. Do we call that love or madness? Is it not just a fine line between both? Why else they would call it 'madly in love' *wink*

So everyone, I wish u good luck in your quest to find true love. Whatever your idea of true love may be, remember it's a 2 way thing. Give and you shall receive. And don't forget to love God above all else, for God's love is eternal and ever forgiving.