Who are we to Judge?

For those of you who read The Star newspaper, I think you would not have missed the photo
of this pretty lady called Jessie Chung. What was so special about Jessie Chung was the fact that she was once Jeffrey Chung. Yeap..she's one of Paul's favourite ladyboy. Well now she's every bit a lady except for the adam's apple on her throat, and she's even a regular church worker. Now this started a sort of discussion between me and LL. LL is of the opinion that whether or not Jessie is doing good charitable work in helping the public, yet the fact she had a sex change is still WRONG. If God meant for her to be a girl, He would have made her a girl. It is not up to her to take matters into her own hands and change herself from a man into a woman.

I agree with that to some degree. I think we should all be satisfied with what God bestowed upon us, and not be thinking of ways and means to become something else. However, I also believe it is unfair for us to judge someone based on what we know teoritically. Sure we know it's wrong to change your sex, but do we really know how it feels to be having the body of a man, and yet everything else about you feels like a woman? Do we actually even come close to feeling the confusion and mental aguish these kind of people would probably feel during their years of discovering their true self?

It's very easy for us to judge others, but it will never be easy for us to be judge by others. Probably everyone of us hides something about ourselves from people around us for fear of being judge. I greatly feel that one should not, and do not have the right to judge another if you yourself has not been through the same situation that the person goes through. It's easy for us to be disgusted by a girl who aborts her baby, but would we have done the same if we were that girl with NIL future, runaway boyfriend whom she thought loved her and parents who would disown her? What about the bank robber whom we all call the scumbag of society? Would you not have also desperately taken the same path if that was your only way of gaining enough money to save someone you love? And the poor girl whom we call a slut simply because she fell in love with someone else's husband. Do you think any girl would actually want to be 2nd place - sharing the heart of a man with another and constantly waiting to have her stolen moments together? And I'm sure most of us have judge our friend's relationships at one point in time. We can say "hey u stupid girl, don't u see the guy's a jerk. Why can't u just dump him?". Yeah right, easier said than done. As a person who has been with a jerk, I can personally say when u're in love, the jerk looks
and feels like a prince. It's just not that easy to say to yourself HE SUCKS! HOW can we judge someone if we have never been in their shoes and experienced their wrongdoing? HOW can we judge someone if we have not been through the same situation and walked away doing the RIGHT thing?

It's true things are either Right or Wrong, and there is never an in-between. On the other hand, a decision can never be a right or wrong.We can never do something that will pleases everyone. I think the piece of advice from my good friend CKL is true. (Btw, CKL just told me he came back from the brink of death due to some tubing accident in Danum Valley). CKL said that whatever decision one makes, just be sure it makes you happy and that it harms no other person. Life is short indeed. Don't waste your time judging others, but rather start by looking at yourself.

COP really needs a break from life....I'm addicted to my blog !! Heck that is sick!