How To Keep The Passion Alive

Marriage is a bore. Passion can never last......
Is that statement right or wrong in your opinion? I have never been married, so I won't even dare to answer that! So from this point on I speak from the experiences that people share with me ya :)

When you're dating, everything is rosy and fine. U pay for your own stuff. U drive your own car. U pay ur own credit card bills. Dirty laundry? Do it urself of course. If u argue, U go back to sleep in your own bed and not speak to each other for a few days. After not seeing each other for a few hours, u just missssssssss the other so much that you contemplate marrying just so u can be together forever. Awww...how sweet.....

UNTIL u actually do live together, and start arguing over who does the cleaning, who pays the damn utilities bill, who does the cooking, who irons the clothes. And heck, that is even before baby comes along! So with all these "pressures" of staying together, how do u suppose the fire of passion can stay lighted?!! And then comes the too frequently used line - "not tonight honey, I'm tired" :-p

So after hearing this from not one but several friends, a logical conclusion would be DON'T GET MARRIED. And if you do, live apart!

No come on, there must be a more logical way to this, right? Women magazines always advice 'interesting' stuffs like dressing up as a nurse, or surprising ur partner by being naked when he comes home, or preparing romantic candlelight dinners once a month...and the best...buying a full set of leather clothing and accessories to be used in the bedroom. *saliva dripping* BUT how many of u actually do that, huh huh? Try it lar!

For me sometimes being in a non-married relationship also can get boring. Maybe boring is not the right word. Maybe we should call it mundane? Or predictable? Ya!!! Predictable must be the word. It happens when you get so used to a person that you can tell everything that person is going to do, so there's no surprises left for u. And that leads to boringness. So this means that to keep the passion alive, you have to remain mysterious and unpredictable. If your romantic dinner is always at a western steak house, why not change to spicy Northern Indian the next time - guaranteed to make you sweat! Always dressed in t-shirt and jeans? Wear something captivating and sexy once a while to make your partner drool for you. If your usual 'playtime' location is in the bedroom, maybe the next time you can get horny in the kitchen? (ooo....don't forget to fully utilise all the fruits and owww..the ice..owww)

But please remember this everyone. Never equate passion to love. You may lose your passion for your partner, but that does not mean you have stopped loving him/her. Just because you don't feel like kissing ur partner, or jumping into bed with him/her, or you don't even miss them after not seeing them for a week, THAT DOES NOT mean you don't love anymore. Passion needs to be worked on sometimes. From all the Aunt Agony letters I read in the newspaper, I feel a lot of people have made this mistake. They meet someone new and get passionate about that person, and because of the raised passion they feel they are in love when in actual fact it is just plain lust. Because of their new found 'love', they drop their current partner to discover later they don't actually love the new one. So dear friends, do tread carefully. And of course don't forget that a piece of ice can be VERY PASSIONATE. (I speak from other's experience and not mine *angelic smile*)

In conclusion, love earnestly and sincerely. Sometimes love needs a bit of helping hand. So once a while add some sugar and spice into the relationship. Once a while remind your partner why they captivate you and what you love so much about them. Compliment them if they look good. Give each other more hugs and kisses. All small things, but could cause serious electrocution between you both ;) If all else fails, just say the 3 magical words - I love you. Never fails :D

TGIF!!